My family, a real one, finally. Two beautiful, intelligent, empathetic, sweet, loving daughters of my own. A real father for them, the kind that comforts them when they are hurt, thinks about what we need to do for their future, teaches them to ride a bike, and gets them riled up right before bed making them laugh and chasing them around! All right, the riled up before bed part I could do without, lol. I am very grateful that things came to pass that afforded me the opportunity to realize my self-worth and that my girls and I deserved so much more in life. I truly believe that marriage should be for life….but everyone makes mistakes, everyone is human. I am so grateful mistakes were made, because those mistakes and my year of healing led me to a better life and to my soulmate.
I always used to think that love should be effortless. That caring and being nice to the ones you loved should be easy. I could not understand why love was so hard. It was hard because it was not Derk. It was not my soulmate. The way we love each other is so natural, so easy, so nice! It is effortless. If there is anything I want to teach my daughters, it is never to settle for anything less than effortless. I finally know what true love is and I want to teach everyone that it is possible, that hope should never be lost, that you should never settle!! It is way too good to give up on, and when you find it, it is magical!
I see my daughters blossoming. He provides for us. He thinks about things they should have that never occurred to me to wish for. Like a brand new bike instead of a second hand one. Like their own rooms. Like a home. Like a family, including aunts and uncles and grandparents nearby who all really want to be a weekly part of their lives. He makes their happiness a priority as well as mine and I do my best to make sure he has everything he wants in return. I promise baby, the BMW is coming!! LOL!
The girls are doing so well now. Playing in their garden, learning how to ride a bike with Daddy, doing their chores, eating their dinner. and the bedtime routine that I always used to do alone before Derk…Now Bella has to have her backrub from daddy every night and Sarin has to have her kiss and bear hug. The most important thing a child needs, in my humble opinion, is to know they are loved. The house is nice, the toys and movies and big tv are nice. But what really counts, what was sorely lacking and they now have in abundance, is their father’s time and love.
I am so blessed and so happy to have a best friend, a love, a real man, a partner, and a father for our children.
Happiness is…..my life, my loves.